Giving Birth and Losing Loved Ones: How They Have Changed Me
In the past 7 years, we’ve welcomed 3 babies in my family, including my own and my brother’s. But I’ve also grieved the deaths of 6 family members who were dear to me – my grandfather, my dad, my aunt, and 3 uncles. While these events took my emotions on a rollercoaster ride of a lifetime, they’ve helped make me stronger, more contented, and happier. They were life-changing experiences. And I’d like to impart to you my thoughts about two major things that I’ve realized from all those happenings: – Giving birth to my little girl gave birth to a better version of me. – Deaths in my family, while sad, brought forth some welcome changes in my life. Giving Birth From the time I suspected I was pregnant, I was instantly determined to keep a healthier body, mind, and spirit. I never thought that I’d be able to do it, but I did. I think I received a lot of gifts through motherhood, and among them are confidence, patience, and joy. I’ve never taken care of any kid of any age in my whole life. In fact, as soon as my husband, my little girl, and I got home from the hospital, first thing that crossed my mind was “What am I going to do with this baby now?” It was tough for me – from taking care of my baby to taking care of my wound from the Caesarean section that I’ve undergone. But everything helped me discover that I can do what I thought I couldn’t. It gave me a new kind of confidence and fulfillment and increased my sense of responsibility. And my self-improvement hasn’t stopped there. I’m not known for my patience in many things. And I’m surprised that I’ve been able to teach my little girl who’s now 2 1/2 years old a lot of things – from colors and shapes to good manners. I never saw myself as someone who could teach, especially a kid. I never thought that I’d enjoy it, but I do. Losing Loved Ones About a month after I got married in 2005, a well-loved uncle died. Four years after, my grandfather passed away, too. Both were from my paternal side of the family. And then last year, my dad finally succumbed to a complication of illnesses that started with a stroke in 2006. After that, a couple of uncles and an aunt also went ahead. It really hit me that often you don’t notice how life can be fleeting. You don’t think that one day someone won’t be with you anymore. Or it never crosses your mind that one person can’t walk with you anymore, because he or she’s too weak for that. Among many other life lessons, it really made me realize how important it is not to set aside things that you can do today – especially if it’s something that will make someone happy. I still miss my loved ones who’ve gone ahead and sometimes still shed a couple of tears or more when I remember all the good times with them. But I’m thankful that after a period of grieving, their lives, and even their deaths, have given me beautiful life lessons I can pass on to my daughter. It’s really in the past few years that I’ve learned that life-changing experiences can happen anywhere, anytime. It can be in the happiest, most challenging, or even very ordinary situations. Becoming a better person is up to us, to our openness to the possibility of improving ourselves all the time. Surely, you’ve got your own life-changing experience. Or maybe you want to do something that you think will make a big difference in your life. Please feel free to share your thoughts in the comments section below.