How Strong is Your Sense of Entitlement?
What do you deserve? Why are some people able to live in mansions while others live in poverty and die of starvation? What is it that you are entitled to? On a surface level you could say we all deserve the same thing, plants and animals alike because nobody is better than the other. This may be true, but.. …do we all feel we are entitled to the same things. If there is a 36 year old, unhealthy computer geek who lives with his parents, does he deserve to date a supermodel? If you answered no, why not? Or more importantly, does HE FEEL that he is entitled to date a super model? Probably not.
What We DeserveThe discussion of entitlement is a difficult one, and one that I’ve actually been hesitant to bring up. There are so many arguments about whether people deserve their current life situation such as poor vs rich and orphan vs happy family. Some people are born into their current situation and can’t do anything about it, did they deserve it? Do they deserve better? Before I delve into that, let’s look at some basic human rights:
- The right to life
- The right to freedom & expression
- The right to work
- The right to education
- The right to food, etc.
Your Sense of EntitlementI believe that a persons sense of entitlement (what they deserve / think they should have) is often closely linked to their self esteem. If you value yourself then you are more likely to believe that you deserve more, where-as if you don’t think much of yourself then you aren’t going to see how others can either. When I talk about the things we feel we are / aren’t entitled too I mean things such as:
- A high paying job
- A happy family
- A good relationship with an attractive partner
- You are enough for the attractive partner
- You are enough to live a happy life
- You are enough to be a part of a happy family
- You are enough for the high paying job